I'm not that worried about her falling in love with me again. I think it's entirely possible, IF she can work through the jungle of resentment and mistrust. She's the one who's panicking because she hasn't fallen back in love with me. I told her today that it's entirely possible for us to build a new marriage that we both want, but there's a lot of work that we both need to do to move past all the hurt and resentment from our old marriage. My stance has always been that we're not fighting to go back to our old marriage...nobody wants that. We have to build a new one. She's angry at me and blaming me because she can't seem to regain that connection to me...and it's my fault.

Backing off is why I'm considering a trial S. It may not need to go that far quite yet, but I'd like her to get a taste of what life is like in the house without me. We had plans to spend a family night tonight playing board games, but she's already nixed that idea...this panic she's been on all day was just out of nowhere...so I may take my Ds for sushi

Last edited by Rzrback; 03/19/15 09:16 PM.
Ex Rzrback
Me 43 Her 44
D11, D15
T21, M19
BD 9/9/2014
Piecing

Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood