I am astounded at how very REAL these posts are. I have been struggling for years with the wife not respecting or appreciating all that i have done. She is finally starting to recognize what i do, but still so very little appreciation. I am convinced she (along with so many in our families) have Irish Alzheimers, meaning they forget everything, but a grudge. The fact is she NEVER ever can let things go. She knows it and still cannot help it. It certainly has contributed in making things hard on us.