Please don't shut up lol. I appreciate the time and effort that everyone who posts on my threadsmakes, and I take on board all the advice given. I should be clear, I am self employed. I do at home as a transcriber. It doesn't pay well at all really - at best being a part time wage, at worst being pocket money. This mattered little when we were together as I was looking after the kids too. Now I'm not doing that I need to do more career wise. I just feel like I can't work this week. I will have to start again next week or soon enough I will have no money.
Think about yourself and your children and what is best for you/them.
Originally Posted By: alpha99
W doesn't want to decorate the house anymore as she sees it as taking to long, dragging things out forever. She wants to sell it as it is. I can still see it taking months to sell. It still has a load of our possessions in it, does need a good tidy up, and then has to go on the market and go through the selling process. I won't accept just any offer.
It sounds like there is no longer "our" but rather "yours" and "hers". Start looking at things in this manner to ease your pain and confusion.
Originally Posted By: alpha99
I know what you mean about someone else playing 'mommy'. I have expressed this fear to my W and said that's the worst thing I could imagine, someone else putting my children to bed each night and not being there birthday mornings, Christmas mornings etc if she meets someone else in future. All she said in reply was that it would be awkward for her if I did the same.
Either one of you may get a new relationship partner and this person may be nice to your children.
Originally Posted By: alpha99
Thanks twinmom for your encouragement. I hope that I do 'make it.' If I could choose between winning the lottery jackpot and say in a year's time living with my W and kids and being happy with them, I would give away the money in a heartbeat.
Think about the path W has taken and the person she is today. She will almost never magically unravel into the person she was before the affair.
Think about all the conversations and various support in people she has of her new lifestyle and the A. Think about things she is interested in now during the A. It's a different person a different mentality.
