hold on! - 8

[u-turn]

Thanks Peter - I would def. like to find the right MC and begin this - at least to help us with a safe place to talk.

I did say to her this morning that I want to talk tonight and asked if she would be willing. She said yes.

today she texted me several times that she was thinking of me and didn't like where we were at.

She said she wants to go somewhere on spring break (probably wants to drive to florida). Later asked again if I was interested (I didn't respond because I was busy at school)

I would normally be ok with this - it doesn't cost us much money (drive, stay with family, hang out at the beach). It is a bit of a painful place for me as this is where I caught and confronted her about the OM last year on spring break. I guess I need to get over that though.

I only responded by saying that I don't like where we are either and really want to figure this out.

Tonight I wanted to talk to her about
1. being happy that she is seeing an IC about her attack and the struggles she is having with that. Attackers W was supposed to call her but never did. I am glad she is doing something about it.

2. NC with OM and what that means to me. No contact (besides REQUIRED work related e-mail and meetings only). Not friends, no text, no games, no alternate e-mail addresses (which I know about and she would have to delete (if that's even possible)). I may have to restate the fact that I know everything that was going on and it all needs to stop. This may seem like I am bringing up old issues, but that is where my distrust comes from. I don't know if I need a letter (I'm not sure) but I really need her to know if she agrees with what the need is. (I think she doesn't think having him as a friend is a problem - I am mindreading about that though.)

3. MC - her willingness and who is finding this MC

and now
4. spring break


don't need to talk about anything else (dui, accident, money) unless she wants to.