"I just keep fixating on the bread crumbs that she drops. She says she doesn't want anybody at work to know she is divorcing. She wants to keep my last name. She wants to keep our family gym membership together and sees no problem with us exercising at the same time. She wants to keep our car insurance together because it is cheaper (for her, not me). She talks about never wanting or seeing herself divorced at this age.."

Kramer, I think the above are:

a) Indicators of her own negative feelings about D, and embarrasment at being D

b) Convenience and saving money

None of what you post above should give you reason to hope she may be having second thoughts. I would get myself a good L and stop worrying about what she may think..

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus