Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

I hear what you are all saying, and I know it is the correct advice. I just keep fixating on the bread crumbs that she drops. She says she doesn't want anybody at work to know she is divorcing. She wants to keep my last name. She wants to keep our family gym membership together and sees no problem with us exercising at the same time. She wants to keep our car insurance together because it is cheaper (for her, not me). She talks about never wanting or seeing herself divorced at this age (and yet it is her who initiated it). And of course, the tears.

She only sees OM every other weekend and her kids want nothing to do with him. He doesn't like animal or travelling, both of which my wife and I love. I'm taller and better looking than he is. And yet, here we are. WTF???