My kids do not deserve this. They do not deserve the be shuttled back and forth between homes. They do not deserve to see their mom or dad 50% of the time. They deserve two parents working on their marriage, showing them what a loving relationship can be. They don't deserve this. They will benefit not one bit from this process. My W and I will benefit because we will find ourselves in better relationships. But from my kids' perspective our M is perfect, fun and loving. They will get nothing but pain from this.
Speaking as a divorced Dad:
You might be surprised. While it's not something they or you would choose to go through, children are surprisingly resilient. In my humble opinion, a LOT depends on how you handle it and conduct yourself.
By all means keep DBing and don't give up hope but also don't assume things and outcomes.
Strength and honor, Shodan.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
