Am I wrong in turning things over to lawyer and completely pissing her off, and driving her further away?
Kramer, she just served you with divorce papers. How much "further away" can she be, really?
NO, she's not having second thoughts. Don't keep making the same mistake you've been making since January. Accept it for what it is, and move on. I know it's killing you, but it will NOT kill you and in fact you will emerge STRONGER from this, I promise you.