I am a good person. I deserve to be treated better than this.
Words of Affirmation – not to someone else (for a change). But for myself. This morning’s men’s group breakfast was helpful, along with all of the ideas y’all have recently given me.
I tried calling my W this morning, but she did not answer. I wanted to talk to her (w/o judgment or accusation), and with the new communication skills I am working on, to see if we could talk about what our children need, and what is best for them. The source of our discussion is d17 recently telling me W is not around much, and my understanding that s13 and d17 need a parent who is around.
The complications on any decision involving who is take care of the youngest 2 children are these: d17 will choose to live with her mother if all other things are equal. She may even live with W if they have to share a bed in a small place. W’s current place has 3 bedrooms, my apartment has 2 br’s. W’s place is a couple of hundred bucks more expensive. If I take over primary physical custody of s13 and d17, it will reduce and perhaps eliminate the child support I pay to W. I pay all of the rent at the apartment where I now live, and d20 lives with me, so any change will affect her – but she has 2 jobs and going to school, so she is the one who is most able to handle any change. My current apartment lease ends at the end of May.
So W a few weeks ago brought up the idea that I take over her 3 br place for the summer going into the fall (so s13 can go to the same school.) When I called my W this morning, I was hoping we could agree to allow me to move into her place more quickly.
I really want to discuss the issues that y’all recently brought up. But today, I took a day off from work to watch the opening day of the NCAA men’s college basketball tournament. So I’m going back to watch some fun hoops. I hope everyone enjoys the day.
