Hi Cherry, the view on the boards seems to be that counselling isn't a good use of your time and resources while your S is actively involved with an OP.

If you don't want to go ahead with counselling and this is why - maybe you could just tell him that?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus