LOVE is unconditional, yes. But MARITAL BOUNDARIES should NOT be.
From my personal archives:
LOVE is unconditional.
FORGIVENESS, too (or -- better -- it is a CHOICE, a DECISION).
RELATIONSHIPS . . . and certainly MARRIAGES . . . I don't believe they are.
It's a MYTH, and I think it's a potentially dangerous one. Marriage is UNDERGIRDED by love -- maybe even unconditional love -- but the marriage contract itself, does that not have all KINDS of conditions?
Would you remain married to your wife if she abused puppies? Did illegal drugs in your home, in front of your children? Was involved in human trafficking? Or would you say "I will ALWAYS love you, but I cannot remain MARRIED to you!" ?
Adultery falls SOMEWHERE on that spectrum for each of us . . .somewhere in-between "abusing puppies" and "you snore too much," lol.
I repeat: LOVE is unconditional. MARRIAGE certainly is NOT. At least it shouldn't be, in my opinion.
Starsky
Susanna dont get confused by the fact that no "other person" is involved.
Infidelity still exists even if their is NO AFFAIR partner.
This is something that took me quite a long time to understand and come to grips with.
Just because adultery is not being waved in your face does not mean that he is not in a fog, your boundaries were broken when he gave you the bomb.
