I don't think I am mentally strong, I just had no other choice. I did end up in the hospital for one night due to this.... The morning after my H moved out.

The hardest part for me was knowing OW was playing "mommy" to my kids. She has two kids of her own also.... it is still hard for me to see her (she lives on the same street as I do, just .25 mile away)

My marriage didn't work, my H "lives" here now because I need the help and he doesn't want a divorce. He doesn't know how to overcome his issues and doesn't trust therapists.

You do what you have to do when you have to do it.... that's how I view life.

Even if you can't find a paying job start volunteering somewhere. You will feel better about yourself, meet people (who could have connections to a great job) and get your mind off of things.

I mystery shop, extreme coupon and donate to charity..... This provides me $$$, self esteem, and keeps my mind busy.

I know I keep going on and on and you probably just want me to shut up but I just want to keep encouraging you that you will make it and be positive.


Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction