So I have been reading along ... I apologize because I can not recall where I read this .. I am sure people can relate as us LBS's to seem to gather and absorb as much material as we possibly can ... I often wonder if its to help ourselves or in this case help others.
Your WAW is kind of in a crisis mode, all she is fixated on is that her happiness lies somewhere beyond her marriage, so that means that the quicker she gets you and the marriage out of her life the quicker the pain will stop and she can find happiness. Currently the OM is the bright new shiny toy in her life, most of us have been there, had to endure that pain ... the more we act up, beg, plead, the more we appear weak letting the WAS know that they are correct in the choices they have made.... heck I drove mine further into OMs arms not even knowing it.
About the "True Love" bit ... yeah .. stop that. Here is the thing ... like I said I can not recall where I read this ... but the article dealt with WAW and how when in a situation like this they can and will take all that good emotional stuff they once felt for their husbands, and transfer it to the OM ... in a way tricking themselves into thinking that what they share with OM is a deep long lasting love, basically she moved her old house of emotions onto a very weak and unsettled foundation ... it will crack from the weight ... either she will start expecting things of OM, or OM will push the issue and add pressure ... regardless like Wonka said .. they do not last.
I had BD around my birthday ... Sept13, W left Nov13 ... not sure when OM was official, my guess Sept-Nov13 ish ... I made some mistakes but once I let go, allowed them to just be ... that R lasted less than a year.
My advice ... DB, go GAL, get yourself together, you can not control her you can only control you, the legal stuff will work its self out, she is going to pressure, rant rave and spew because she isn't getting her way ... let her pout .. stay out of her sand box, work on your issues and get your self back together. Become a guy any one would love to be around. This thing is more about us than it ever seems to be about them.
