Rzr, not trying to further kick you when you're down, but I don't think I've EVER seen a successful reconciliation after an affair where the formerly cheating spouse didn't do the overwhelming majority of the "work," at least in the initial few months. While the WORDS "I'm sorry" don't always come forth, the EFFORT and ATTITUDE has to be one of contrition and of "doing whatever it takes" to try and reconcile the marriage, even if the feelings aren't quite there yet (and they won't be, as you know by now).
I honestly don't see that from your wife, and I haven't -- at any stage of this.
Starsky
Unfortunately I don't see it right now either. I thought I saw it in bits and pieces; the last couple of weeks I finally started feeling like she was present. This morning proved me wrong.
Her words this morning: "I don't feel guilty because I know what you did to me". In other words, what I did was OK because you screwed me up, Rzr.
I don't expect contrition per se, she doesn't need to beg my forgiveness; I've mostly forgiven her for the A itself. I take a lot of responsibility for the mistakes I made in our M but blaming me for her current emotional state seems to be all she cares about. I don't know what to do anymore.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
