RPP: Best Year Ever (18)

[Zues126]

rppfl- I've meant to tell you this for a long time but haven't gotten around to it. Now I have to make time even if I'll be a hair late for my appointment.

I have admired how you've handled yourself like almost no one else. You show empathy and compassion for your H when you can, and still find positive qualities about him when possible. You have stood by your M a long time and accepted a lot of limbo. You have been very hurt, and angry at times, but it doesn't define you...those seem to be moods or reactions, not your legacy. You aren't rewriting history on your ex, minimizing everything you had because of his recent decisions, but instead are admitting that you are suffering the loss of a good man who is human and has failed.

So many things I can't remember any more. But it's been on my mind since you were talking about "being attractive" or in or out of "someone's league".

I'll tell you my opinion on attractive. I don't care about looks, much less than most men or women even. I don't really care about income, success in the outside world, or whether someone is the life of the party. None of that defines whether "I'll be in to her".

I'm usually more interested in someone that has strong character and values, someone that has some passion to offer...but just as importantly someone that can be into me. Someone that would choose to appreciate me, treat me lovingly, validate me, even when we disagreed or things were tough. Someone that would forgive me and stand by me through tough times.

So don't worry about what you have to offer or what league you're in. You bring a lot to the table and I appreciate you modeling such a healthy path through this loss.