Alpha - rollercoasting #3

[alpha99]

Thanks Starksy,

I know you're right, there's no magic bullet. I am just interested in how people in a similar situation managed to turn things around. I know that any further negative moments between us are just going to push things towards divorce quicker.

If you ever get the time I would be very interested in an overview of how you managed to turn your sitch around over time. Since your posts spread over multiple user names and years it seems I think I would struggle to get through it all and piece it all together myself. Your advice all along has been spot on. Thank you. I'm just having a really rough day today.

I guess I need to start thinking about how I'm going to handle tomorrow. Being with the kids is no problem - looking after them is second nature to me. I am just wondering how to deal with my W. Since we're out for a meal together conversation is going to be inevitable. Should I initiate friendly banter or let her lead. Obviously no R talk, that's not the point of the occasion. I have a feeling she will mention her new place, how happy she is, try and goad me into a fight maybe over how I have been proved wrong, how she is a good mum, how things are better than ever for her, all the hospital and school rows from recently, how I said I was going to hurt myself, how she can't trust me with the kids alone etc. I know I mustn't react negatively and I plan on saying I don't want to discuss those things whilst we are out with the kids. I am just a bit nervous over how this meeting will go because it has to go well.