My wife is very stubborn, angry, defensive, suspicious, and determined that she wants a fresh start, a divorce, pretty much full custody of the kids at the moment (although in the future she said that might change), doesn't love me, hasn't been happy in years, doesn't find me attractive anymore, said the sex with OM was 'a different league', says she wishes she had never gotten married . . .
My wife said ALL of that, and more. "I hate you." "I hate you and I will ALWAYS hate you." Went for full custody of our children. Had her lawyer move to immediately have me removed from my own house. Told her OM that "no one ever did it for me the way that you do," along with multiple ILYs. Lied about me -- repeatedly -- to her parents, her siblings and even our own children, making ME out to be some sort of crazed, controlling lunatic.
And more.
That was in 2007. Next month, we will celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary and renew our vows, in front of our children and our two new grandchildren. Our relationship has never been stronger.
Alpha, there are no guarantees. The only guarantees are the NEGATIVE ones -- you know, "I can guarantee that you WON'T get her back if you keep doing the negative things you're doing," that sort of thing. All you can do is maximize your chances, by following the DB principles and your posters' advice, consistently and over time.
