Trying to Follow DB & DR

[Miman2]

Thanks Detrmnd!

It does help to know there's someone else who knows what I'm going through.

I'm seeing a therapist who works with CBT and has dealt with swinger and poly relationships in the past. I've only met with him a handful of times so far. We haven't made a whole lot of process, he claims we're still in crisis management and he seems to be trying to fix the poly relationship. He's even mentioned trying to reach out to the other woman. His idea being that if she really loved me then she should be someone I could reach out to for support. I don't think I can do that, much less want to right now.

He made a good analogy about the swinging. You have a 2d-axis of physical and emotional connections with other people.
So at
( 0 physical, 0 emotional) you have monogamy, at
(10 physical, 0 emotional) you have swinging, at
(10 physical,10 emotional) you have polyamory.

He didn't mention what (0physical,10emotional). But The basic idea though is that swinging 100% supports an idea of monogamy because at the end of the day/night/whatever you go home with your spouse and continue your relationship.