I think it takes such great strength and courage to look inward and make changes in yourself. Unless there is like severe, untreated mental illness or abuse,relationships can be worked on. But not everyone has the capacity to imagine or, more importantly, to dig deep within themselves to acknowledge their role. It's sad, but I think I am finally understanding the part about how it's not "over" until I decide it's over, and what truly dropping the rope means.
It means I have to change my vision of what I thought my H was. He is just limited in his ability/willingness to self-reflective or change. I understand. ..those things are very hard to do because they require us to face ugly truths about ourselves. Not everyone is willing to do that.
I want to be with someone who is. Our WAS will seek someone "easier" or more compatible, but when the reality of their inability to work on a relationship surfaces again... well, they will realize.
