Your H is going for a week, you say they go for the summer, is there any opportunity to go out there after your H and still see them?
I am totally not explaining myself well here. This trip is more than a week for everyone, including H and (formerly) me and my kids. Yes, it's possible that I go there without H. I don't want to. I want to be part of the magical summer that I've had for 27 years. The one where we escape the city and my kids roam free and I relax with family and neighbors that I've known forever. And it's not the same experience without H, just trust me on that and don't make me explain why.
I appreciate that everyone is trying to give me a different perspective, I really do. I'm just in a funk about this, this is not changing a week's vacation plan, this is removing something that's been a significant part of my life.