Gwen, I think a bit of us worries that this is really all our fault, even when our heads tell us otherwise.
It is one thing to own a part in any relationship rift, but what most of us here experience is different.
My intermittent glimpses of my xh husband show me that this is a very strange and troubled human being who still isn't happy. Our work on ourselves does pay off, and we reach a place of calmness and stability.
I think this especially true when the MLC'er is trying to make it YOUR fault, after all it could never be their fault.
However this is an excellent point and Job's advice that
