Hi Alpha, that's a positive development. You backslid with your W recently and need to recover from this. I would not put your focus on her during this meeting, but aim to move a step forwards in terms of her trusting you with the kids. Saying things like you will kill yourself is not going to help that - so any time you feel something radical about to pop out of your mouth, clap your hand over it okay?

Can I ask why she has been so reluctant for you to have the kids at all? From your posts, you feel you are a good Dad to them. It seems unreasonable to me that she only 'allows' limited access and this may be something you want to challenge. But does she have some legitimate reason for her concern? Ideally in this sitch, your kids would be staying with you for some of the time. But it sounds like she is getting to call all the shots WRT your time with your children and you are accepting this.

So, I would make tomorrow all about fatherhood and don't seek to make progress with your W, other than 'small talk.'


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus