Do not sound like some pitiful victim that has been booted out of his M. Sound like a guy who is single and is discovering it's not too bad!
This advice makes sense and like much DB doesn't come naturally.
Maybe I am done. I am all for standing for my M, but my WW has made her choices and I have no interest in playing games to try to jolt her out of a phase and win her back. She choose other men, alcohol, and a wayward lifestyle over me. That's her journey now. I'm not really interested in giving her enough influence over me to impact how I act around her. It would be on her to prove to me that it's worth giving her the time of day again, not the other way around.
That's not to say I won't do 180s for ME, and that I haven't learned from my mistakes. But they aren't to chase after someone that won't treat me in a way I am ok with.
As for that attitude in general...I don't know that I feel I'm a "victim"...but I don't feel the need to pretend that I didn't incur a devastating loss. Yes, I'll go on and appreciate what God gave me. I'm doing well in my life and will be ok. But I believe in M, I don't believe in D, and I feel acting like "meh, I'm single, party!" doesn't fit my character and beliefs. Again, if this doesn't woo back a WW then she is free to stay gone. Maybe someone will appreciate what I offer some day, maybe not. But this is who I am.
Last edited by Zues126; 03/19/1506:10 AM.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
