She felt like the M was ending, but she wasn't ready to accept it. So she was telling herself "we'll work through it", etc, etc.
But she had another voice telling herself "this won't work, I'm not happy, I want more, it will never get better", etc.
She vocalized the positive voice around you...but in the end she believed the other voice.
Yep, I've unfortunately had the same thing happen to me. In my case, this all came right after I confronted her about OM, which I didn't know about during BD. At this time, OM wasn't working out, she had second thoughts but I think she wasn't over OM. It was 'new' enough being away from me that it was liberating for her she then blamed her being away from me on now being 'happy.' Well, I didn't bite too much, but like go go, I think her words were the right words, the time was bad. As Sandi has said, timing is everything. Now I see the 'happy' away is not really 'happy' for her and she's struggling to find the next excuse why she doesn't want to do the work. I'm going to need the right words and 'see' the change in her before there's any Chance of me taking her back.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
