For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

[gogofo]

Question about what a WW tells her husband.

The last great effort the XW and I made was in November. We were doing really well and in that time she wrote me a Anniversary card. In it she wrote about how much she has felt we both changed and how we were doing great together and how we could make it through anything that came our way. I took her words as the truth and I still think she meant every word of it. She seemed to be focusing on "us“ and seeing things the way I saw them, not perfect but on our way.

We even had talks about us and being better and feeling better together. She even talked about being excited for the holidays and how she had not felt that way for a long time.

The last time she validated that we could work through any issues was a couple of days before we listed our house for sale. She expressed that she was nervous that she was forcing me to sell the house. I told her she wasn't, but asked why she brought it up. She explained that she would feel bad if something happened and we didn't work out. I asked if she felt there was any reason we wouldn't work out and she said no.

I truly believed every word she said or wrote to me, and I still believe she meant it.

Two weeks after the house talk she said she was done trying and wanted a D. She said nothing has changed and the holidays sucked and she just wanted a D.

I suspect (now) that the contact with the OM started again during this time. They work at the same place and she started back to work then also.

So Sandi my question is were these feelings she expressed to me true and the addiction to the OM changed her viewpoint or was she just keeping me as plan B for a while? Or is there another explanation or any way of knowing?

I feel she was being genuine but the OM made her change her behavior again like you described earlier in the previous thread. She got a taste of her drug and became addicted again.