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Here's something else that might clarify the philosophical differences in this discussion. It touches upon the argument that since I'm still married, I should be faithful.

The duration of the M after S - the wait period before D - is a regulation, a social construct decided by politicians and technocrats. They are a reflection of the consensus in a representative democracy. They are different under each jurisdictions (states, countries, landers, provinces...).

They are not a reflection of my morals or sense of commitment. You get married where you live, not where the M and D laws reflect best your personal convictions. I happened to be married in a place where a D can only occur one year after physical separation.

As I stated above, I believe that the M contract is broken once a spouse leaves the M and commits to another person - this is more than cheating. This, and not the law of the land where I live, is what defines my morals.

For some, morals can be defined by the law of the land, but as I stated several times that my role model is Gandhi, I believe that laws are made by people, often change and can be unjust. In this case, the 1-year delay does not reflect my understanding of M and D. I do not feel bound by it, nor can my morality be judged by my obedience to this arbitrary law.