Perhaps you are right but as I said earlier you are a better peson than I am. You have waaaay more empathy and patience that I do. I have learned a lot from you on both of these fronts.
In my family, I too have an Aunt and Uncle that I love dearly who divorced stayed divorced for about a year and then remarried. They have been married over 30 years. Its hard for me to believe they were ever divorced.
I honestly don't know how I can reconnect with her after all of this has gone down. The lies, betrayals, the anger, the threats and filings to take my children from me, the disrespect, all of that has been so hard for me to endure. Do I have empathy for her? I do as I seriousy think she is in crisis even though she does not know it.
All of my friends and family are incredulous that I could still even want to reconcile with her - EVER. All of her family and friends are pushing for he divorce. But that is a decision that only we can make. I get it that my friends and famiy are trying to protect me.
I honestly think the reason my WAW is pushing so hard for this D is so she can marry the AP. That is the only reason that makes sense to me. So again, who am I to stand in the way of true love?
If nothing else, I would like to have an apology when this is all over. I don't think I will get one and I don't think this will end well with a bow on the package. I think it will be a ugly wound that will take a long time to heal if ever frankly. Co parenting will be very hard but again, I will do my best for my children's best interests.
I wil try to conduct myself with dignity, pride and compassion. I hope I get that in return but if I don't I don't. I will try to remember this is not about me but HER.
For now I will try to push past the fear and carry on even though my heart and soul are crushed.
The next update will be on Friday with news from my L about the strategy.
