In my experience, I remained very vigilant about going off on a slippery slope. During the first several years after Ms. Wonka moved out, I was feeling very rejected and not overall positive about my value as a partner. Out of these feelings, I really felt lonely in terms of companionship. Oh ya...I wanted sex too.
To date others to fill a void from a place of neediness wasn't the way for me as I knew it would complicate things for me and for the other woman. It would not have come from a place of, "oh yeah...I am open to dating and it'll be fun!"....but rather a place of inadequacy and insecurity.
Not a great way to get back into the dating pool.
Now? I am at a place where I feel ready and confident of dating to learn more about others to see if there's a possibility for any further progression. It is a pleasant place to be.
For the longest time, I felt like a bright neon pink "L" blinked from my forehead after Ms. Wonka left. It took me a while to rebuild my own self-worth and discover my own value.
Slippery slopes are dangerous....for many reasons if one is not mindful of their own motivations.
