I thought everything was okay....(Part 4)

[TLEE86]

So this is an interesting post to me in particular because I am literally about to write something very similar. But just some of my observations here...

Well, I sent a long email about how this communication is just not working nor is it fair to the kids. It was long, factual, and passive-aggressive (W, as we discussed, if you want the kids tomorrow to keep the days 'even,' I'm fine with that.) I knew the last piece was a little below the belt, but I was at the point that I didn't care.

Im confused. HOW is this "below the belt?" Because you put "even" i quotations? I think you are readying way too much into it, I don't really know what else was written but that little blurb right there to me isn't below the belt, its...what she wanted. So the truth.

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As I said yesterday, everyone is just telling me to take a break. I think that's what I need to do, but I just feel like I'm leaving W at one of the lowest points since BD. I guess I'm fine with that in most circumstances, if I wasn't worried about her so much emotionally.

If this is what you feel like you need to do, I think you should do it. Give it a few days, a week, 2 weeks, whatever you need to re-charge and take care of you. I read in your previous post about "saving" your wife. As you know Ive felt this way for a long time but the more days that go on, I really don't care anymore. You know this too..that she needs to do it herself. You're just getting in the way if you try and save her.

Her being at her lowest state...very interesting because I feel that way too. Im honestly not sure what to do about it. Except reiterate that if she's at her lowest, thats probably a GOOD thing, IMO. She has to hit the very bottom before she can come up again and the sooner she hits it, without you being a dickhead or rude to her, the sooner she can start parting through the fog.

Whats going on with her and OM? Is he causing any of this? Is he helping her through any of this...emotional drama she has with herself?