Well, I didn't mean to start this type of debate, but I figured that I should weigh in a little. I agree, this is a very personal choice with every person having a different basis on how to seek guidance, some from religion, from their own morals, from the law, whatever.
I get the feeling of having these needs and desiring to have them met. I think we all here because this isn't something we take lightly. An open marriage is not in the cards. For Mozza, I can understand his view totally. I don't see M as just a contract, but given his circumstances, I see where I may feel the same way. I also agree with PM that it does complicate things. My only advice is not to do what you 'feel' at the moment, but understand the consequences of any decision one way or another. I think that's what PM was trying to say.
For me, I'm going to do my best to wait this out. However, I see my sitch slightly different than Mozza's. I've said that if my W could sit down and have a (real) conversation with me and tell me this is what she wanted, I may feel divorced, I may not. For me, it's a religious thing right now because I do feel that my commitment was with God too and this is the 'worse' and in 'sickness' of my vows, but that's just my belief. Without that, for me Divorce papers are just that, papers. I Say as long as folks out here consider their options and be careful not to get caught in a situation that they find switching their values (either way) without thinking about it, do whatever.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
