Wife having emotional affair 5

[PatientMan]

Well said. She may complain about her current life, but what she is not saying is that she obviously still prefers it over her marriage or she would be back. Whether that reason is freedom or pride, whether it makes any sense or not, whether she seems rational and reasonable or not, it doesn't matter...you are going to have to understand that you are NOT going to understand everything, if not even very much.

When you go into it with that mentality, it doesn't take away some of the shock value from their decision-making, but it does temper our natural response. Here is an old quote on the mentality of your posture:

I don't know about your H, but my XW is all over the board. I don't know what to expect from her behavior-wise, so that's why it is so important to detach and not let that stuff get to you.

Expect that they will be irrational and insensitive. Expect the unexpected.

If somebody surprises you with a push, they can easily knock you over. If, however, you have the mindset that this particular person might push you and are ready for it, you can absorb the push and continue to stand tall.

The longer term goal is to not allow this type of behavior to push you, but in the meantime, protect yourself.

Stick to your plan no matter what she says or does. Some days will be better than others, and some days will be more difficult. Sometimes you just have to put your head down and pull that sled.

-PM