Cherry, I'm so sorry things are tough right now. I get a real sense from your sitch that H is just out most of the time and you are literally left 'holding the baby.'

What about making some plans for yourself one night and pre-arranging for him to look after the little one? Maybe get out for an evening with some girlfriends? He may not be offering much as an H right now, but sounds as though he needs to step up as a Dad. And might do you some good to have some grown up time...

Also, the advice on these boards is normally don't move out. But if you can't tolerate living with him whilst he's involved with someone else, ask him to leave.

Chin up Cherry, these early days are tough, and you're doing really well :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus