Pink, I think V does have some wise words. IMHO, your H seems so lost and confused, he may keep this up for a little while. I don't want to lose Pink - oh, but I don't want to give up OW either. I can truly understand your anger, but equally if he is in MLC, he may well be feeling even worse than you.

At least you have your kids, some good friends, support from these boards and so on. He's ambling forwards in along a self-destructive path.

I guess what I am trying to say is I think you are absolutely right to set some healthy boundaries and deal with finances and so on. But perhaps in time your anger may be replaced by compassion. Not the kind of softening that lets him back into your life and your bed. But the kind that wishes him good fortune as he drives his bus off the cliff. Part of your anger may be because you 'believed' in him. But if you truly accept that he is lost - at least for now - it might be easier to let the anger go.

I always enjoy reading your posts Pink. You are such a vibrant person, and I'm so glad you've come back to us! xx

Last edited by Toots; 03/18/15 08:35 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus