I do not have to have an agenda to go into this coSo, I think I have decided to lay it out, most in the edited draft that V had revised. I will simply pause before I offer a solution and see what he says. My roommate will be there and I am sure I will be safe.
H has a history of intimidation with me, yes. Verbal name calling came to a halt years ago, now it is more psychologically condescending stuff. I see it for what it is, his attempt to maintain control over me. He will say many things about how he doesn't see himself as equal, or as smart, capable, etc...as earlier post in this thread - so he lashes out to feel he gains ground. nversation strong. I can simply tell him how I am.
Cadet, your post worries me - help me explore this - that he will continue to break through boundaries until he is all in...do you mean in a way that he will sabotage this waiting for me to break it? Like if he crosses enough lines he'll get his D?
What is the purpose of this letter?
I guess my point is if you are worried about all these crossings of boundaries, you are not piecing, he is still in crisis and the best thing for YOU is to cycle back to detachment.
Protecting yourself, you are cycling with him reeling you in and then abusing you, that is not a good cycle.
Yes I think he will continue to break boundaries, how specifically I can not predict but I think that is part of the abuse.
