So, I think I have decided to lay it out, most in the edited draft that V had revised. I will simply pause before I offer a solution and see what he says. My roommate will be there and I am sure I will be safe.
H has a history of intimidation with me, yes. Verbal name calling came to a halt years ago, now it is more psychologically condescending stuff. I see it for what it is, his attempt to maintain control over me. He will say many things about how he doesn't see himself as equal, or as smart, capable, etc...as earlier post in this thread - so he lashes out to feel he gains ground.
I do not have to have an agenda to go into this conversation strong. I can simply tell him how I am.
Cadet, your post worries me - help me explore this - that he will continue to break through boundaries until he is all in...do you mean in a way that he will sabotage this waiting for me to break it? Like if he crosses enough lines he'll get his D?
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
