The NC thing ... I dunno ... I think the intent is to get the WAS thinking, get them wondering what the LBS is doing, move a touch of their focus from themselves and OP to the LBS. I know for me it just never seemed to really work that well, I was kind of NC even during the marriage, I still never initiated the TM ... and still don't.
I think the thing to keep in mind, what sometimes gets lost here is there is not one set script that works for all situations, the book even states .. try something different and see how it works .. for some NC might be the way to go, for others maybe its a GAL event ... maybe a 180, its always different.
I do think though, if you are doing it for a reaction out of your WAS its not going to stick, do the GAL's 180's for you, this helps your PMA and increases your self esteem and THAT in turn will help you become more attractive not only to the WAS but more importantly to yourself ... I just believe we have to get ourselves back first .. long term relationships have a way of slowly stripping us from that.
