Just realised wife of 12 years is having a MLC

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Thanks guys I won't read anymore, I guess there is no point.

Starsky I will pass it to a 3rd party. Though I find it so humiliating I have no idea who..

Also now I must point out that W has been telling anyone who knows that I have been controlling, mentally unwell and that she is not having an A.

In the early parts of the messages she even says "I feel bad because I know this would hurt my husband but I can't stop something that feels this right"so she did as some point acknowledge she was crossing a bridge.

From december there is him asking if she would leave me for him and her saying "in a second" etc...

So Should I expose this to others who she is lying to and painting a picture of me to that justifies her behaviour?

Finally dropping D off earlier she said "I heard mummy on the phone to someone last night saying that 'I just wished that he would just get move on and we could get a divorce so that I could be free'". Now I am mega pissed that D13 overheard this, I know she was talking to OM but I need to mention this to W. How should I react and what should I do or say?

Thanks all of you for your help