Jer .... you are just fine ... I shake my head reading your sitch as it was not long ago I was right there.
Like GB said Jer ... you can only really control YOU, your W is in replay, probably one of the most brutal of all the stages as far as the just plain selfishness of it all. I do follow you pretty well, the thing I think you need to start doing more of ... get out of her head and really get your GAL on, even if thats something with the kids. I am telling you because I was there, consumed with W, how she sounded on the phone, how she looked, what nights she was solo or with OM ... do not waste that energy there, waste it chasing those kids around, making memories, rebuilding yourself .. I see you starting ... keep at it. You do not want W in this condition do you? As far as God protecting their R ... like I said before .. the fact they can not really be close is going to string the R out longer (More patience on your part than you would ever want to endure) ... but seriously ... looking at it from the outside, they really have little in common, can not share much that is relevant, its nothing more than something built on a weak foundation in fantasy-ville ... it will run its course, most of them just do. Where and who you will be at that point is what your journey is about. Jer 2.0 will be amazing ... you know that, do not let her and her crazy derail you.
Thing is Jer ... I was like you thinking .. ok it OP would just get out of the picture W would start figuring stuff out .. nope .. the OM seems to be gone but W is still processing, this thing takes so much time and by the end who knows who W will be, or who the LBS will be for that matter. All we can do is become the person God meant us to be, I know that now, that's my focus ... can not control what our MLC'rs are going to do ... heck they can not control it and will have to make mistake after mistake till they bottom out ... its up to them to go through the tunnels, we have our own path we must walk, the power is truly all in our court even though at times it does not feel that way.
