Well I have not really read your sich but a boundary is something that you control, like if you continue to hit me I will walk away, file for divorce, or call the police.
I can say that until he is ready to be all in, the odds are he will bust through or break any other boundaries.
So I would agree with what V wrote to you as I do not think you should tolerate domestic abuse.
Please protect yourself with what ever means possible that you have.
