Zelda - I want it all, all right now.

[Vanilla]

Ok, vets - help with a script please (thanks V for the suggestion.

H, I met with our MC last night and she recommended that C should be here for this discussion, and he has agreed, and heard the thing I am about to describe. On Sunday evening you used your arm to send two bowls flying at my body. When I asked you to clean up the messyou followed me into the kitchen and wrestled my phone out of my hands, destroyed it, and stood with your fists on either side of my head screaming. Then as Iwalked through the door and before I was out of the way, you slammed it into me.

I have been angry and sad that I believe I have been emotionally bullied by you for weeks, and I find this physical intimidation is too much. I feel safe only as long as I do not say something that may upset you or that you cannot handle.

This is painful to me and I will not live in a house with violence. I told you that years ago.Though you are entitled to your feelings about the things I said about the errand and party, There is no justification for this violent behavior. I am also upset that you have chosen not to speak with me about it for three days, and then used my personal account to fund your night out last night. I am feeling incredibly disrespected.

I have explored filing a police report detailing the intimidation and damage on Sunday night, and if anything like this is to ever happen again, I will not hesitate to call the police.

I would like to know if you are interested in continuing this marriage If you wish us to resolve this then I have found on a course for domestic violence and anger management that meets every week and I am prepared to work with you to do so.

(if there is equivocation, protest, blaming...I'm asking for the D. My MC told me last night - change is only possible in those that want to change. Boundaries are great if I am forced to be in this situation, which I am not. I am getting nothing out of this but grief.) then:

H, I do love you and want to see you do well. It is clear to me that this has concluded and I am confident that we can agree to an uncontested D and begin the process of dividing our lives. I would like you to move out in the meantime, beginning tonight or tomorrow, as I no longer feel comfortable in the house with you.

This is other than one isolated fight Z.

OK?

V