Hi Starsky thanks for the advice... The car is in my name.

So today things got a lot worse... or better in terms of intel.

I run the mail server all the stuff goes through for all family emails, there was an issue today and I was sorting some things out. Anyways she had sent an email to herself of an attachment of every conversation upto yesterday she has had with OM/A on whatsapp (their medium of choice for text).

I couldn't resist, I downloaded and started reading... The EA was going on for two months before, chatting online. The first meeting was planned, and not "off the cuff" as claimed. I haven't even read 10% there is such a huge volume to go through... Should I read it all even though it hurts like hell to read? But is more knowledge worth more pain?

So I guess I at least have intel and now know she is wildly in love with her AP and had discussed leaving me for him months ago...

Right now I feel awful and just want to go lie down and cry, but I am determined that this won't knock me off track.

I just need help from you guys on how to sort this out, just glad I didn't make any financial commitments yesterday!

Last edited by Detrmnd; 03/18/15 05:02 PM.
T:13 yrs M:11
Me: 36
Her: 33
Living apart
Her having affair
She Asked me to move out 26th jan 2015
3 kids D13 S10 D10
D not mentioned yet