Zelda - I want it all, all right now.

[Zelda09]

Ok, vets - help with a script please (thanks V for the suggestion.

H, I met with our MC last night and she recommended that C should be here for this discussion, and he has agreed, and heard the thing I am about to describe. You used your arm to send two bowls flying at my body. When I told you to clean up your mess, you followed me into the kitchen and wrestled my phone out of my hands, destroyed it, and stood over me with your fists on either side of my head screaming. I walked out the door and before I was out of the way, you slammed it into me.

I have been feeling emotionally bullied by you for weeks, and this physical intimidation is too much. I feel safe only as long as I do not say something that may upset you or that you cannot handle.

This is painful to me and I will not live in a house with violence. I told you that years ago. Though you are entitled to your feelings about the things I said about the errand and party, there is no justification for this violent behavior. I am upset that you have chosen not to speak with me about it for three days, and then used my personal account to fund your night out last night. I feel incredibly disrespected.

I have explored filing a police report detailing the damage you did on Sunday night, and if anything like this is to ever happen again, I will not hesitate to call the police.

I would like to know if you are interested in continuing this marriage. Here is the information I have found on a course for domestic violence and anger management that meets every week.

(if there is equivocation, protest, blaming...I'm asking for the D. My MC told me last night - change is only possible in those that want to change. Boundaries are great if I am forced to be in this situation, which I am not. I am getting nothing out of this but grief.) then:

H, I do love you and want to see you do well. I am hoping we can agree to an uncontested D and begin the process of dividing our lives. I would like you to move out in the meantime, beginning tonight or tomorrow, as I no longer feel comfortable in the house with you.