OK, to make a long story longer, I want to explain why I am disappointed. I thought/hoped W was making some progress away from her previous dating every night lifestyle to something where the kids were more important to her. I saw s13 was doing better in school, and thought W was home more and helping him more. I was wrong on this.
The drinking? This is all new. And we have friends whose mother died at the hands of a drunk driver. I don’t have evidence W drove home drunk, but it raises some questions in my mind. Dang, I wanted this to be getting better, but it seems to be just all staying the same.
From where I sit, she isn't being a parent. She is trying to have BOTH the single lifestyle with no responsibilities, AND, having her kids "around" so she still looks like a good mother.
That's a lot of cake you are serving her.
Imo, this is a critical time for your D and especially your son. Young men and women need good, strong male presence in their lives.
You are the best person to be that presence... You are their father. It's time, imo, to show them that man.
Time to file, going for 80/20 custody, that's 80% to YOU, btw....
You don't know what will happen in the future, none of us do, but at the moment...? She is being irresponsible as all h3ll at a time when your kids need positive role models, accountability and I'm not seeing either from her.
We are all here to try to save our M's...but comes a time when the needs of the many....our kids, and, ourselves, outweigh the ideal of saving the M.
It's time, Wet.
Let her go.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
