Just wanted to add a boundary is different to an ultimatum. H is likely to dig his heels, tantrum, get defensive If you present him with an ultimatum.
If it were me then either a statement ' I have decided you need to leave and I shall be filing for divorce' or a boundary ' I am angry and sad that I believe you are abusing and intimidating me, in the last few days you have threatened me physically, .......and used my debit card to pay for your St Patrick night out. I have decided that if this happens again then D is my only option' or words to that effect. Sandi or Wonka or Cadet may use better words.
If you want to rehearse then please post.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 03/18/1503:46 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
