I'm going to post this here in my thread although infidelity wasn't a cause for my marital BD.
There's a great podcast called Death Sex & Money. Google and look for the episode Cheating Happens. It's an honest look at cheating from people who have been on both sides of it. There is no judgment, so if you're looking for that you won't find it there.
Some of you may not be ready to hear it, if you're still really raw, you may not want to go there.
But the last guy who talks about his W cheating sounds like he could have DBd.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss