Alpha - rollercoasting #3

[alpha99]

Thanks for the input Starksy. As part of changing myself and GAL I do have goals for myself. Maybe I will start to post them here instead of just having them in my head.

I agree starksy with your point about some goals being out of control. For example, in her book an example of a vague goal becoming action oriented, not wanting to be separated as a goal becomes I want to be home by May. Now, if I were to say I want to move in with W by X time, that goal is too far reaching now and I have little control over it. Despite the timeframe element, something short term such as doing a family activity together may well be out of my control. I can do things along the way though that may aid in achieving this goal or vice versa. Ranting at W would certainly not bring that goal any closer to fruition, but maybe having it in mind and acting in a way that might bring it about (say being relaxed, co-operative with W to a degree) may bring those goals nearer. That's just my thought on it. I do sense a discrepancy between the books and people here on this. That's interesting and midly confusing for me at the same time.