I find the goals thing pretty confusing. I recently re-read that chapter of DR, and the goals MWD looks at are M/R goals.
I have never liked MWD's goal-setting techniques, to be honest, or maybe I'm misunderstanding them. Every single self-help, business, etc. book I've ever read and every seminar I've ever gone to says that goals need to be "realistic, achievable, specific, dated, and self-focused."
I understand what she's teaching here -- things to look for that would be demonstrable signs of progress -- but I've always thought that those were mostly out of the betrayed/left-behind spouse's control. Maybe if she called them "roadmarks" or "relationship markers" or something?
In any event, I do think Alpha you'd be better served to set goals for YOURSELF each week. Those can include things like "remain calm at all times when interacting with wife," but they should all be about things that YOU can control.
