I find the goals thing pretty confusing. I recently re-read that chapter of DR, and the goals MWD looks at are M/R goals.

I agree with TM, that the family activity may be 'reaching.' Although mutual parent's evening visit that runs smoothly would be a good outcome. I also liked the goal or remaining calm/not reacting this week.

Is it more when you have a WS, actively involved with someone else, that the goals need to be more about you? But if you have a marriage in trouble, and not a WS, the goals can be more about the R?

My recent goals have been much more about me, because we don't have a R as such at the moment. But I can see that could change if OP wasn't in the picture and we did decide to work on the M.

Sorry to hijack Alpha, but this may be useful info for you too perhaps?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus