Thanks for posting guys. Yes Cadet, he does seem to like those tunnels. Where is that elusive cheese?

Edz, you mentioning compartmentalising resonated with me. I think our WAS's, particlarly wayward ones, are pretty good at compartmentalising. They convince themselves that having an A doesn't impact the M too much. They are a 'lover' with their AP, and great H and father with their families at the same time.

But compartmentalising can be useful for us LBS' too. It helps if we can see that our lives have different 'compartments' and are not all about our WAS's. I think it helps if we can put our WAS's in a compartment sometimes and get them out and have a look sometimes - but not all of the time. Other times, we open other boxes. New things at work, time with our kids, new time alone, new hobbies, new friends, helping others and so on. So whilst WAS' compartmentalise to the detriment of our M's, we can do the same to the benefit of ourselves.

Just logged off from work, and going to have a walk in the lovely spring sunshine :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus