Good attitude from your part. My L said that my H is not doing his stuff right now is because his mind is totally devoted to think on his dream life.
The L said that most of the time he sees one spouse doing all what they can do for the M or for the D and the other spouse is in some cloud dreaming of a life they think they are about to built. The new is so attractive that make them escape from reality.
My L even advise me to take advantage of this stage and get him on my side instead of against me.
Your H may had that dream life of something that is not becoming reality for him. Besides being in dream mode, now he needs to deal with the fact that he is feeling sorry for himself. That he is not happy, that he is suffering and blah,blah, blah. The poor me guy is in action now.
However, he is also feeling his life all over the place, the guilt feeling is there and he is trying to swipe it under the rug for now. Why do they do this?
I know a lady that her H left her with 5 kids and got himself a much younger girl. For him, his W was all his problems. After 2 years, she is strong and got her life back together. He is still a mess, very unhappy, on his third or fourth girlfriend. He does not look good and did try to get back together, only she does not want him anymore.
I wish things get better and your H figure that he can turn around and be happy again.
You are doing great Toots. I wish you all the peace in the world, so you can keep doing what you are doing and be strong.
Have a good Yoga class beautiful, you deserve the best.
